Do you try to avoid failure?
Most people try to avoid failure. It makes sense, too. Failing is not fun. It would be great if we could leap right to success. However, it doesn’t work that way. But, you can use tools to help you believe in yourself, and find that success after failure because one of the best tools to help you is failure itself.
When you fail, you can use the experience to figure out what went wrong. You can evaluate the steps you took and try to find the point of failure. You can then choose alternative steps based on that information.
You do need to be honest in your assessment of why the failure happened. If you go around blaming everyone else for your failures, this will mask the true reasons, and you will never move on to create transformation for life. It’s easier to blame others rather than admit your own mistakes. However, you aren’t doing yourself any favors when you do this.
Recognizing your failure is important, but don’t be overly critical. If you get to the point where you are putting yourself down because you failed, this won’t help your cause. You need to recognize that you failed, own it fully and embrace it. Then, you can take a step back and figure out how to continue.
You can also get inspiration from the failure of others. People write about their trials and tribulations in books or post videos about their experiences all the time. Their experiences can help you by giving you tips on how to avoid the mistakes they made. Understanding this can help you succeed at a much faster rate than if you make the same mistakes. Using other peoples’ experiences to your advantage is crucial. If you don’t do this already, it’s time to start.
Drawing from the experiences of others also shows you that you aren’t alone. If you read about how a successful person overcame obstacles, you can feel better about making mistakes. In other words, if they did it, so can you. That too is a powerful benefit of using failure to your advantage.
Now, is there ever a time when you should try to avoid failure? If you are repeating the same mistakes over and over, it’s time to take a hard look at what you are doing. If you can’t break that cycle, you may want to find a coach that can help you. Sometimes, that extra push can be all that is needed to get you to move on from that cycle.
Again, failing is not fun but learn to Use Failure as a tool for transformation for strengthening Belief in Yourself!